Sloane Green

eating disorder recovery coach

Individual & Family Coaching


5 Things for a Successful 2018

What's your word?

I told you mine is CONSISTENT, & part of that is blogging & newsletter-ing... consistently.
I'm so interested to know what yours is & how you've come to decide on its power. I can't wait to watch you absolutely fulfill your word everyday!

Many times, we say we're doing it, we're going all the way, & there's so much motivation... until we forget, life gets in the way, & we use our old, comfortable ways to deal. I want you to succeed in your word, & I want to be consistent about my word CONSISTENT, too.

Here are 5 things that I know will help me this year, & maybe it can also help you gain some clarity & form action on your own word:


1. See small picture.

One thing I really struggle with is just that: my day-to-day. I’m so good at “Big Picture” living, & seeing the overall outcome & benefits… & I want it to happen NOW. That’s the challenge of today’s insta-world sometimes… because life doesn’t just open golden doors when you snap your fingers. If I can focus on the smaller tasks (consistent, even when I don’t want to be), the overall outcome will take care of itself.
ActionIt will take practice. In these moments, remind yourself what your word is, what the outcome you desire at that given moment, & ask yourself: "What is the very next thing I can do?" Because that's all you can do.

2. Be super specific.

I want it all.
But this makes me distracted at everything, &, I don’t know about you, but I hate investing time with people who are mentally... somewhere else.
You might feel the same juggle in some departments. You (like me) might struggle with focusing on your family while “working from home,” or making a name for yourself in your career, while also keeping up with your friends’ social lives. You don’t want to miss out on fun, but you don’t want to pass up opportunities for career growth. I totally get that.
ActionEven if you want to “be” a certain way, or “have” a certain feeling or identity, you must be SO specific at what that looks like, who needs to be in/out of your life, why you want it, how you will get there, what happens if you do/don’t get it, & how you will measure your success.

3. Be intentional.

You can have it all, but you must be intentional about how you go about living your day-to-day. You have to commit to living your word You want to have your word & vision as almost a superpower... you don't want to go to bed thinking, "Shoot! I forgot about my word & had opportunities to practice it."
Action: For me, this is all about starting my day with a reminder. Keep it on your phone lock screen & practice how you might use your word. Keep your word taped to your mirror, on your bedside table, to your coffee maker... whatever it is, make sure you see it (we are super visual beings!), & take time to think about how you can use your word that day.

4. Process over outcome.

This might go with #1, or the following one, but I think this is important. The problem, in my opinion, with "resolutions," is that many times, they are outcome-driven. "I want to lose 15 pounds," is a great example.
Action: Instead, focusing on the process of these goals would look like: "I will cook all my meals on weekdays," or, "I will meet my friend for a walk or run two times per week." 
That way, we don't have until the end to see if you've done it or not. Did you meet your friend twice?  Did you cook all meals for three weeks in a row? If not, you will know you need to step it up, or change your process to meet your end-goal.

5. Struggle is good.

You don't want to hear this, but you will fail, & that's a GREAT thing. You will forget your word, you will have fear or become tired of fulfilling your word. You will try to change the meaning to fit into what you didn't do. You will act out your word, & not get the outcome you desired. 
Action: Do it anyway. 
Susan Jeffers has some great insight on FEAR, if you need it. Struggle, & then failure, is how we remember what's important & why we're doing the hard thing. Failure is a teacher on how to do things instead, & to learn about yourself. Failure is brave!

Go out, & take your first step. Today. Get comfortable being uncomfortable. And most of all, let your word guide you into your vision!
Let me know how it's going!

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